My birth story: Welcoming Deckard, our gastroschisis baby 

I really should’ve taken my own advice when I wrote the post “Expect the unexpected.”

Things are about to get a little TMI so if you have a weak stomach or just don’t like talking about birth…. we’ll maybe this isn’t the blog for you.

It was a Wednesday evening, Jaxon and I had just got home from having dinner with some friends. He was exhausted and fell asleep in my arms on the couch. I remember thinking in that moment that we only had 12 days left just the 2 of us.

Boy was I wrong.

I went to bed that night with what I thought were Braxton hicks contractions. They had started really early on in my pregnancy so I grew to just ignore them.

At 2:50am I was woken up by how strong my contractions had become, but I still didn’t think anything of it. I was only 36 weeks pregnant!

As I was laying awake in bed a felt a gush, you know, down there.. in my head I thought “awesome, I just peed myself” which is a pretty common occurance when I’m pregnant if we’re being honest. I went to the bathroom and when I sat down I noticed blood. I called the on-call nurse at my OBGYN’s office and she told me to go get checked.
At this point I still didn’t think I was in labor. Wrong. Again.

I woke my husband up and told him he had to take my to the hospital.

“What? Why?” was his still half asleep response.

It took us maybe 10 minutes to get ready and get in the car. Thank God my father in-law was here because we had no one we could’ve called at 3am to watch Jaxon!

The hospital is about 30 minutes from our house with traffic, since it was 3am we made it in about 15.

By the time we got to the hospital my contractions were less than a minute apart. It took me probably close to 15 minutes to change into the hospital gown because of how slow I was moving through each contraction.

The nurse came in to check my dilation and she started to giggle

“What?” I said

“You’re 9 1/2 centimeters!”

“WHAT?! No, Avery, I can’t do this” I looked at my husband so scared.

I was about to panic. I wanted an epidural so bad! Thanks be to God they still gave me one, which was very surprising, but hey I’m not complaining.

Once the epidural was in they swung my legs around into the stirrups and I started pushing.

Yep, just that fast.

2 pushes and out came our beautiful baby boy! 4:47am on Thursday August 17th!

I have to admit the sight of him with most of his organs outside of his tiny little body was a little terrifying. My perfect baby didn’t look so perfect, and there was nothing I could do about it…

They whisked him away almost immediately and took him to the NICU waiting for the helicopter transport to come take him to the hospital in Denver where his surgeon was waiting.

Luckily the nurse I had likes to break the rules a little bit, she threw me in a wheelchair as fast as she could so I could go be with our baby. I got to be with him for a few minutes before the transport team showed up. Let me tell you I will cherish those few minutes forever.

Once they took him away it became my goal to get discharged from the hospital as soon as possible so I could go be with him in Denver. Thankfully my doctor was amazing and knew how badly I wanted to be with my baby so I was discharged just a few hours after giving birth.

To say it was a rollercaoster of emotions that day would be an understatement. While I was making my way to Denver, Deckard was going under the knife for the first time; which at the time we didn’t know if it would be his first and last time or the first of many surgeries to come…

Looking back on that day now it’s still a little unbelievable to me how everything went down. I was in shock for most of that day and had no clue what the following days would look like for me or Deckard.

Now this was only the beginning of our journey! I will be posting more soon, all about our NICU stay and so much more, so check back for updates on our gastroschisis miracle baby.

Thanks for reading!



Expect the unexpected: Our gastroschisis journey part 2

Once again, I’ve sat down a few times to write this post and wasn’t really sure how to get it all out. So here goes nothing!

As many women who have had healthy pregnancies I never expected anything to be wrong when I got pregnant again. I was definitely one of those woman who took my healthy pregnancy and easy labor and perfectly healthy baby for granted the first time around.

While we were given the diagnosis of gastroschisis early on at our 12 week ultrasound, we were always told that gastroschisis babies tend to do extremely well during pregnancy and even after delivery. Our baby was a rock star at every appoitment! Even practicing breathing early on, constant movement and great variability in his heartbeat.

Spending 2 days out of the week at doctors appointments became my new normal. Our visits always took less than half an hour, so when I went in for my routine BPP (bio physical profile) for the second time that week I didn’t expect anything different. 

This was the worst mistake I made. 

Never get too comfortable with the way things are going. Ever. 

Everything changed in the blink of an eye. The fetal dopplers showed that our baby had absent blood flow in his umbilical cord, which if goes unnoticed can cause decreased movement and a high risk for a stillbirth. 

I held it together when the doctor told us to pack our bags and head to Denver where I would be delivering but as soon as we walked out of the office I crumbled into a ball of tears. I was only 30 weeks pregnant and our little man had a LOT more growing he needed to do. 

I was numb the entire drive to the hospital, not really knowing what the next hours or days were going to look like. Was I going to have my baby? Was my baby going to be okay? 

I was admitted to the hospital and immediately taken for another ultrasound to check blood flow again. This time they got better results. Thanks be to God. 

I stayed in the hospital for a total of 10 days. Everyday things seemed to get a little better. Some nights, things were crazy. At one point they even though my water broke! But thankfully, here we are at 34 weeks along and the bun is still in the oven! 

There’s still a very rocky road ahead of us. If all goes well baby boy will have until 37 weeks to put on as much weight as possible before they induce me! We know there is a possibly very lengthy NICU stay in our future, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it. 

I share all of this in hopes to reach other moms out there who may be looking for advice or a similar story to theirs. I don’t want to scare you when I say to not get too comfortable or to expect the unexpected, but with our babies this is how we have to think now. 

I have faith God chose me and my baby for a reason. We know our little boy is a fighter and God must think all of us who go through this are strong enough to carry them through this journey. So have faith that God truly never gives us more than we can handle. 

Subscribe to the blog for more updates on our gastroschisis baby, what it’s like being induced, and all about our time in the NICU. 

Please keep us in your prayers and wish us luck! 


Baby O’Kane 3 month update! 

I can’t believe how fast these last 3 months have gone. People always warned me that in the blink of an eye your little one has grown up, and it’s the truth! I still remember vividly feeling his tiny little feet kicking me when I was pregnant. I also remembering thinking he was NEVER going to get here! And now 3 months have passed and it’s hard to remember what life was like before this bundle of joy joined our family. 

It’s been the most magical 3 months of my life. Seeing life through a child’s eyes is something truly amazing. The way he lights up when he sees his Daddy melts my heart every time.

He is a BIG talker now! He loves to sit up, and loves to stand and jump! He is constantly on the move, from the second he opens his eyes in the morning his little arms and legs are moving like crazy! I know I’m going to be in trouble when he’s older! He hates tummy time but is a pro at it. He has started trying to roll over and I know he’ll get it soon! He drinks 6oz every 2 hours and is officially out of 0-3 month clothes. He’s growing so fast! He loves being outside and stays awake whenever we ride in the car now! He went swimming for the very first time and absolutely loved it! We definitely have a water baby on our hands and I love it! 

He is definitely a Mommas boy but loves to listen to his daddy talk. 

I can’t wait to see what the next month has in store for us. My little man has already grown and changed so much I can’t wait to see his little personality and character start to show! 

Check back next month for our 4 month baby O’Kane update! 


My birth story: Welcoming Jaxon Avery 

To start, I had two false alarms, one where I thought my water had broke but it turns out I just peed on myself! Yeah, that was fun. The baby was positioned face up and was digging his head into my back causing me to have back labor for 2 days before I was admitted to the hospital! Let me tell you, those last 2 days I cried.. A lot. 

March 27th the night finally came. My husband and I had just got home from one of our “false alarm” hospital runs. The doctor told me my contractions weren’t strong enough and sent us home. Little did he know we would be back just a few hours later. We returned home from the hospital around 9:30 at night. I was in so much pain in my back I decided to lay in our guest bedroom where the bed is very firm, hoping it would ease the pain. For a few hours the contractions came every 2-3 minutes and I could get through it by getting on all fours and swaying back and forth.

By 2 am the morning of the 28th I could NOT do it anymore. I tried to walk around my living room to ease the pain and every contraction would send me to the floor crying. I consider myself someone who has a pretty high pain tolerance but this was intense! I had heard back labor could be worse than regular labor but I had no idea it would feel like this! I could barely breathe right in between contractions so I knew this was it (and if it wasn’t I didn’t want to know what was.)

I finally woke my husband up and we headed back to the hospital around 2:30am. The nurse checked me once we got there and I had changed out of my clothes and was all hooked up to the monitors. I could barely lay in the triage bed it hurt so bad. The only way I could get through was to rock back and forth on my hands and knees.  The nurse checked me and I was 5cm FINALLY enough for them to admit me! The nurse asked me if I wanted an epidural and I couldn’t get the word yes out of my mouth fast enough. The next thing she said was the best thing I had ever heard in that moment, “When?” 

“NOW!? Can I have one now??” I walked for 15 minutes and then was taken to my room at 3:30 where the anesthesiologist met me in my room with the epidural. 

The last contraction I felt was so intense it made me throw up. I was so over it. I thought when I she administered the epidural I would feel a lot of pressure in my back but I think because the pain was already so intense I didn’t feel a thing! I remember when the doctor said “Oh I think you just had a contraction.” And I didn’t feel a THING. I was so happy.
Since all my family lives in Florida I was on FaceTime with my mom the whole time. Even though she was physically there it was nice to have her voice to listen to. 

(See the two phones propped up on the table? That’s my mom and sister phoning in for some moral support. You can also see my extremely happy face since I was no longer in pain) 

By 8am I was 7cm and my water still hadn’t broke on its own. So my doctor finally got to the hospital and broke my water. It was a huge relief once it broke but I felt like I was peeing myself for the next few hours which was kind of a weird feeling. 

After she broke my water I was expecting it to be a few more hours before I would start pushing. I was wrong. 

At around 9am my doctor came back in the room and I was 10cm and ready to push! We had to wake my husband up who had been sleeping in the corner. My doctor initially said to try some “practice pushes” well 8 “practice pushes” and 15 minutes later we had a baby! 

May 28th at 9:13am we welcomed Jaxon Avery into the world! 6lbs 6oz of pure angel baby perfection! 

I never knew I could love someone SO much it almost makes my heart hurt. We were able to leave the hospital the next day. I couldn’t wait to get my baby home. My mom joined us a few days later to help us settle into being new parents. 

It’s been three months now since bring baby home now and he gets more perfect everyday. 
Thanks for reading about my birth story and going on the crazy ride with me. 

Wish my luck and keep coming back for updates on how baby J is growing! 


Thanksgiving Bumpdate! Week 21-22

We’re in Florida!

  I’m so excited that I was able to fly down to be with my family for the Holidays. I got in two days before Thanksgiving and drove to Tallahassee with my parents and my sister to spend Thanksgiving with all of our family! I’m pretty sure we sued a total of 13 sticks of butter in the entire Thanksgiving meal, let me tell you baby was very happy! We love food! It was such a great time! I missed everyone so so much. We were also able to get family pictures taken with all the aunts, uncles, and cousins which we haven’t done in years!

    Don’t judge us, but were the family that cooks everything in pans that we don’t have to wash we can just store the leftovers in and then throw away later. It’s not fancy, but honestly it was the greatest idea my aunt had. It saves so much time on washing dishes and such and leaves more time for bonding with the family!
We drove back home Friday night since Black Friday isn’t even Black Friday anymore we got all of our shopping done Thursday night and finished it up Friday morning! I spent the rest of the weekend with my family. My sister got to stay home from school on Monday so that we could hangout! I was supposed to head back to Colorado on Wednesday, but with how expensive flights are the Hubby and I decided it didn’t make sense to spend another $500 on a plane ticket to send me back to Florida in like 2 1/2 weeks. So I’ll be staying with my parents throughout Christmas and Avery will join me in 2 weeks!

Being at home with my family has been so amazing. I never realized how awesome my family was until I was without them for MONTHS! It’s been extra fun shopping for baby Jaxon with my mom and sister, we stocked up on baby clothes and other things during Black Friday shopping!

At 21/22 weeks I still don’t have any crazy symptoms beside my boobs growing ridiculously fast, and having a little less energy than normal, I feel great!  I do notice I get out of breath very easily if I move to fast or if I make my shower too hot.. which is a struggle for me since I like my shower pretty much scorching! The one thing that has been killing me is my lower back! My sciatic has been giving me so many problems since being pregnant and it is not fun! Stretching has given me some relief and my dad has had problems with his sciatic so he had tips for me as well!

My mom and I will be taking a tour of one of the new hospitals that just opened up here pretty soon, and I can’t wait. We only have 4 more months till this little monkey gets here and I could not be more excited! We’ve decided that I’ll come home again closer to when Jaxon is due to have him here in Florida where all of our family can be there. It’s going to be a crazy few months but I can’t wait!

Wish me luck